Nothing To Do With Religion

I don’t believe in that stuff because I am a Christian,” or “People who think they can talk to dead people are devil worshippers,” are just a few of the things I’ve heard people say. Being a Medium has NOTHING to do with religion or worshipping anything. I happen to be a Medium that is fascinated by all religions. I am a spiritual person and am open to learning new things. I find it fascinating how and why people choose what they believe. Most of the time, it is how they are raised; generations of family members that pass on their beliefs. Other times, it’s a dramatic or life changing event that guides them to follow a more religious path.

Are you afraid to die?” is another question I get asked a lot. Some of the spirits I have communicated with have shown me their death, right before they died and what happened after. One that stands out is a gentleman that died in an accident. He was driving on a highway and a semi-truck going the other direction lost control and came across the road onto his side. I could see it from his point of view … I was him. I could see the truck losing control and the back end of the truck fish tailing across into my lane. He had no time to get out of the way. As the truck was coming at my car, I was bracing myself for the impact and the pain.

Then everything went black, and it was so quiet. I felt light as a feather and I was raising up over the accident. No pain, just calm and peacefulness. Then I had this overwhelming feeling of freedom and lightness. I was raising up higher and higher, lighter and lighter. No worries, no sadness, no burdens, no fear, just pure happiness and relief. I can still feel how I felt as I am typing this and it makes me smile. So, No, I am not afraid to die. I am definitely not ready to die, I have too much to do and people to help. I am, however, looking forward to meeting the spirits I have read in person, plus my loved ones.

A LITTLE SIDE NOTE: No spirit has ever shown me God or referred to God. They show me a beautiful place and that they are now with their loved ones that have passed away. Who knows, maybe there is a quota on how many spirits I have to read to earn the right to see who’s in charge.

Empathic Medium

Being Empathic is one of the more interesting and challenging parts of my gift. By definition — An Empath absorbs people’s emotions. Empaths are highly attuned to other people’s moods, good and bad. They are also affected by other people’s energy and have an innate ability to intuitively feel and perceive others. For me, all that also applies to spirit energy. When a spirit comes to me, I can feel their emotions, and in most cases, how they died. With many spirits, they want me to feel what they went through before their death, so I can understand how they have healed or don’t have the ailment anymore that took their life.

I have also experienced spirits that are stuck in their death state. They are frustrating to read because they go in and out of being ill and being healthy. For example, I did an investigation where the spirit I was reading died of dementia. He was stuck at the home I was investigating because it was where he had lived for years and had his best memories before getting dementia. He was very confused and he kept mumbling.  Then he would be absolutely clear and present, so I could communicate with him and figure out why he was there and what he needed. He also could tell me what I had already sensed … there was more going on in the home then I was being told. I always tell people as a joke, but for me it’s serious, “The walls of your home can talk.” The space you are in absorbs your energy and the energies that enter it. This is what I call residual energy.

As an Empathic Medium, I can pick-up on negativity or if someone died in a location. I knew the moment I moved into my home that someone had died in my cul-de-sac. I could sense his energy across the street, and I could see him walking back and forth out front of the neighbor’s house.

In most of the experiences that I will write about, being Empathic is a big part of how I read a spirit and how I can help their loved ones. Being Empathic can also affect my every day life. I pick up on living people’s feelings and ailments too. I can feel sick one moment, then overly happy the next … grumpy for no reason, or feel drained at the drop of a hat. If I see someone crying, then I cry. I can also sense when someone is a Sensitive.  But through meditation, exercise, and reading books, I center myself and focus so I am always ready for my next investigation or reading.

Where do I start???

The number one question people always ask is, “Is it scary hearing and seeing a spirit?” My answer is No, not anymore. Of course at first, I was scared; I actually thought I was going crazy. It’s not fun waking up in the middle of the night because you hear someone next to your bed, and when you open your eyes there’s a dark figure standing over you. Or, when you’re at a restaurant having a nice dinner with friends and a spirit decides they have a message for their loved one sitting at the table next to you.

I had a situation one time where I walked into the bar at a restaurant and I saw this lovely older woman sitting at the end of the bar with a handsome older gentleman standing next to her. I thought, wow, look at the way he looks at her; you can really see how much he loves her. So I sat down, ordered a drink, and turned to the lovely woman and noticed she was now by herself. I asked her if she, and who I assumed was her husband, were having a nice evening. She just froze and looked at me like I was crazy. Then, she smiled and said, “I had a feeling he was here with me.” My stomach just fell, I got light headed when I realized my mistake. She then explained that her husband had died the year before and thanked me for saying something and not ignoring it. I made sure she knew how much he loves her and he is always with her. She cried, I cried, and she thanked me for the most special gift she could ever get. She said really needed to hear from him at that time.

Even though I get such a seriously uplifting and amazing feeling when I give people messages from their loved ones, I still had to learn to make boundaries. I had to learn how to block myself off in public. Not all people are receptive to hearing that their loved one is with them and have a message for them. I also had to learn to block off my home so that my family wouldn’t be affected. I will post all about creating boundaries and blocking in another post. Until then …


It is rare when you come across a truly special human being. Because I only do readings or investigations through word-of-mouth, I don’t know the person directly that I am about to help. That’s how I met EV. (I will use initials, never names in my posts.) Also, I will write about the details of that investigation in a future post, it was definitely a great experience. After doing my investigation and talking to EV, days after she asked me if I ever thought about blogging about my experiences. ?? She thought that my stories were fascinating and that other people would find them fascinating or relatable too. I had instant anxiety thinking about putting myself out there. That is why we decided that I should do a blog anonymously, or as I say, take baby steps. This whole idea and the design of this page was her idea. I can never thank her enough!!! Gratitude and appreciation are just two words that still don’t express how much I am thankful. As EV interviewed me, I got to know her more, that is why I said in my first sentence, “a truly special human being”. She really listened to me and is so excited about this new adventure for me, that I am so excited and inspired to get the stories flowing. So EV, here I go, this first post was for you. Now, it’s on to “ghosty” stuff.